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Name: monty Location: United States Gender: Male
Interests: music, sports, fun, girls, life Expertise: I weave magic carpets that go anywhere anytime! Occupation: Student Industry: Art
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I just had to say thanks to Tennisgrl, a very special friend, Natalie (Mat) Patterson, for making xanga such a rewarding experience. 
I hope others enjoy the luck of having the opportunity of meeting totally fantastic people as they travel the vast highway of the Internet. I met a few that forever will make their mark on my life, thank you all.
Mat is sexy, unselfish, intelligent, funny and honest. Thanks for taking and making the time you did to be with a friend. I am forever grateful for all of your caring and just being the great buddie you are. I would be remiss and just hate myself if I didn't let the world know how great of a person you are. Some guy out there is one lucky guy.
Good luck! and God Speed in all you do today and in the future. Forever your friend, monty
PS: for u
Grew up in a small town And when the rain would fall down I'd just stare out my window Dreaming of what could be And if I'd end up happy I would pray (I would pray)
Trying hard to reach out But when I tried to speak out Felt like no one could hear me Wanted to belong here But something felt so wrong here So I prayed I could break away
I'll spread my wings and I'll learn how to fly I'll do what it takes til' I touch the sky And I'll make a wish Take a chance Make a change And breakaway Out of the darkness and into the sun But I won't forget all the ones that I love I'll take a risk Take a chance Make a change And breakaway
Wanna feel the warm breeze Sleep under a palm tree Feel the rush of the ocean Get onboard a fast train Travel on a jet plane, far away (I will) And breakaway
Buildings with a hundred floors Swinging around revolving doors Maybe I don't know where they'll take me but Gotta keep moving on, moving on Fly away, breakaway
I'll spread my wings And I'll learn how to fly Though it's not easy to tell you goodbye I gotta take a risk Take a chance Make a change And breakaway Out of the darkness and into the sun But I won't forget the place I come from I gotta take a risk Take a chance Make a change And breakaway, breakaway, breakaway | | |
| (1) USC 42, Arizona 21
marsh can get crazy!!
In the last few days, it has been uncanny that I have only met people with problems and more problems. You name it, they got it. It's like life is one big problem and all they can talk about it problems problems problems....
many problems are just being angry at somebody or something.....angry angry
others are just frustrations about home, friends, relationships, money, and some are just not feeling good about one's self, or just mad at one's self for losing control, taking drugs, bad sex, stupid sex, or weird sex, about drinking, lots of drinking goes on around here, beer, wine, hard stuff is all around....some problems are really difficult, parents going through divorce, dad or mom losing job, its just goes on and on...I listen....sometimes that's about all you can do.....just listen:
Dedicated to those who's backpack has no books....only problems:
All my life I've been fall- fall- falling apart, Been tumbling down quick first right from the start I never learned just get up and go on Until I'm just knocked right off of my feet
But it's not the fall that hurts It's when you hit the ground Cuz it's not the fall that hurts It's when you hit the ground
Stumblingly' with every step I take And it seems I can't get a grip I'm soon gonna slip And then I look down I see the fur ground Is closening fast again And then boom
But it's not the fall that hurts It's when you hit the ground Cuz it's not the fall that hurts It's when you hit the ground
So...I'm thinking what problems do I have? what really wrenches my gut?.....
1. I have this uneasy feeling that I may have missed one of the greatest opportunities of my life when I didn't dig into staying for study in Paris.
2. I'ts hard to think how to say to someone you really care for what you know they don't want to hear - it has to be done - and I know it....and it eats me alive.
3. grrrrrrrrrr I really don't have problems at the moment, what I do have is failings....failing to take time out to help others like I used to, not working and paying for some of my own way, ignoring my music - that really gets to me........................"I cried cuz I had no shoes, and then I saw a man with no feet"......gotta put life and reality in perspective.....
what then if not a stack of problems do I have in my backpack?.....I have blessings.....
what more can I say?
1. I have terrific parents and family supporting me every step of the way.
2. I haven't forgotten that life is choices.....I choose to follow the path of just trying to do the best you can with what you have and give thanks to God.
3. I have good health and I am able to go to college - for that I am most thankful.
4. I have trememdous friends and making new ones all the time.
5. I have a thirst to do something constructive in what ever way I can.
This is the last posting on my thoughts on Xanga. The next one will be my last one and another guy fades away into the Xanga dustbin..... | | |
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(1) USC 38, (14) Arizona St. 28 
The Road Not Taken
Yes, I am learning about the world around me. Friday, went to Glendale, Calif with one of the dorm guys to stay over his place. The city is within Los Angeles County and at the foot of the Verdugo mountains. We had great time, and wow! what a house. His dad is a financial consultant to some movie people and his mother is a physiatrist involved with physical medicine and rehabilitation. My new friend is a philosophy major and medieval history buff. We talked philosophy to the extent of my limited knowledge and it made me think about the roads we take. I thought about Mat's milestone birthday (happy birthday OH legal ONE!) and in the aftermath of the weekend I thought about the roads we take. OK...sorry, here are the boring thoughts from a non-philosophical mind:
Each of us are born, we live our lives and then we die. What makes us different from one another is how we spend our lives. Life is such a precious commodity, yet we take it for granted... always thinking there will be a tomorrow, another chance to make it right, to do what we didn't do today. What would happen if each of us spent each day as if it were our last? Would we then tell the people we love just how much they mean to us? Would we call that old friend we haven't heard from in ages just to take a trip down memory lane and laugh about the good old days? Would we take a leap of faith by following our dreams more closely? Would we see the magic in life?
As we live our lives, we collect among other things regrets. Impulsive decisions, love gone wrong, could haves, would haves, should haves pile up until what's left is the very narrow path we follow. So what happens if we suddenly stop and step off that path? What happens if we get a wild hair and do something totally out of character? Ha! What could I do that would be totally out of character for me? Would that list be very short? My impulsivity is part of what guided me throughout life in HS and remains a constant within my curious self to know and experience the world around me. I had a great impulse while in Paris this summer to stay there, to study there, to experience the difference of another culture far different than those I think I know....being an American, Canadian and Dutch all rolled into one. The question is for me anyway, is that enough? Is there a thirst in me that makes me want to venture and explore the world? In search of what? .....dunno, I said I am not a philosophical type. But, I do remember this poem, yep, I was awake in English in Seattle once upon a time:
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The Road not Taken
| Two roads diverged in a yellow wood, And sorry I could not travel both And be one traveler, long I stood And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth; Then took the other, as just as fair, And having perhaps the better claim, Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there Had worn them really about the same, And both that morning equally lay In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day! Yet knowing how way leads on to way, I doubted if I should ever come back. I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence: Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-- I took the one less traveled by, And that has made all the difference.
~Robert Frost~
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NATALIE PATTERSON
1 OCT BE THE DAY! SWEET 18!


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| No matter how smart you think you are, it takes certain techniques to even take test.....try some of these....even now, or before your next big test...SAT...GRE....or just class test.....study habits are hard to come by after your already been in school for 12 years........it takes an attitude check....and then....go for it........either your competitive...or just one of the pack.....so far...I have made the following on a quiz, turn in's, and test's..... 88, 91, 85, 98, 75, 94, I got lucky on the 94 and the 88 with some questions being deleted.....
Good Study Habits
- Decide what to study (reasonable task) and how long or how many (chapters, pages, problems, etc.). Set and stick to deadlines.
- Do difficult tasks first. For procrastination, start off with an easy, interesting aspect of the project.
- Have special places to study. Take into consideration lighting, temperature, and availability of materials.
- Study 50 minutes, and then take a 10 minute break. Stretch, relax, have an energy snack.
- Allow longer, "massed" time periods for organizing relationships and concepts, outlining, and writing papers. Use shorter, "spaced" time intervals for rote memorization, review, and self-testing. Use odd moments for recall/review.
- If you get tired or bored, switch task/activity, subject, or environment. Stop studying when you are no longer being productive.
- Do rote memory tasks and review, especially details, just before you fall asleep.
- Study with a friend. Quiz each other, compare notes and predicted test questions.
General Suggestions for All Types of Tests Essay Tests, Objective Tests (Multiple Choice, True / False), Problem Tests (Math)
- Rule 1: Arrive early instead of barely on time, so as to be organized and ready instead of in a panic. Try to go into the test alert and calm instead of tense and anxious.
- Rule 2: Regard a lapse of memory as perfectly normal; do not let it throw you into a panic. If you block on answering one question, leave it for awhile and return to it later.
- Rule 3: Make certain that you fully understand the test directions before attempting to solve any problems or answer any questions.
- Rule 4: Plan how you will use your time during the exam. Quickly look over the entire test and divide up your available time as appropriate to the number and type of questions that you find. Then be careful not to mismanage your time so that you find yourself with insufficient time to answer all the questions.
- Rule 5: Read each question carefully and completely before marking or writing your answer. Re-read if you are at all confused.
- Rule 6: Ask your instructor for help in interpreting a test questions that is unclear or ambiguous to you. He will probably want to clear up the misunderstanding for everybody if the question really is misleading or confusing.
- Rule 7: Be careful not to give any impression of cheating.
- Rule 8: Do not be disturbed about other students finishing before you do. Take your time, don't panic, and you will do much better on the test.
- Rule 9: If you have any time left over, edit, check, and proofread your answers. Use all the time available to eliminate careless errors and to improve your answers as much as possible.
Special Suggestions for Objective Tests
- Answer all questions in order without skipping or jumping around. Identify doubtful answers by marking in the margin and recheck these as time permits after all questions have been answered.
- Do not linger too long on any one question. Mark your best guess and move on, returning later if you have sufficient time.
Reread all questions containing negative wording such as "not" or "least". Be especially alert for the use of double or even triple negatives within a sentence, as these must be read very carefully to assure full understanding.
- Check for qualifying words such as "all-most-some-none", "always-usually-seldom-never", "best-worst", or "smallest-largest". When you see one of these qualifiers, test for truth by substituting the other members of the series. If your substitution makes a better statement, the question is false; if your substitution does not make a better statement, the question is true.
- Watch for modifying or limiting phrases inserted into the true/false questions. Instructors often use inserted names, dates, places, or other details to make a statement inaccurate.
- Be alert for multiple ideas or concepts within the same true/false statement. All parts of the statement must be true or the entire statement is false.
- Be alert for grammatical inconsistencies between the question stem and the answer choices on multiple-choice questions. A choice is almost always wrong if it and the stem do not make a grammatically correct sentence.
- Be cautious about changing your answer to a true-false or multiple-choice question without a good reason. Your first "guess" is more likely to be correct than are subsequent "guesses", so be sure to have a sound reason for changing our answer.
Apply the same approach to answering both true/false and multiple-choice questions. The same techniques will work equally well for both, since multiple-choice questions are basically true/false questions arranged in groups.
- On matching exercises, work with only one column at a time. Match each item in that column against all items in the second column until you find a proper match, marking through matches about which you are certain, so that it will be easier to match out the rest about which
Special Suggestions for Problem Tests
- Write down hard-to-remember formulas, equations, and rules before you actually begin working on the test problems.
- If you are unable to work a problem, go on to the next one and come back to it later if time permits.
- Even if you know that your answer is wrong, turn in your work, because you may get part credit for using the right process.
- Show all the steps in your work and clearly identify or label your answer so that it can be quickly found.
- Whenever possible, recheck all answers in a different way from that employed when you did the work. For example, add down a column of figures when rechecking if you added up the column when you first solved the problem.
- Take time to write legibly and make your corrections, if any, as neat as possible. Most instructors react subjectively to the appearance of papers to be graded, so let neatness work for you rather than against you.
- Leave ample space between your answers. You may need it for new ideas or additional details when you return later to re-read what you have written.
- If you encounter a question that you think you can't answer, leave it to be answered last, but don't leave it unanswered. You may get partial credit for even a poor answer, especially if everyone else also had trouble answering this same question.
If you have too many "yes" answers to these next items, then you are in trouble!
- Lack of a study schedule
- Priorities unclear (What to study first)
- Failure to use short blocks of time constructively
- Failure to use long blocks of time constructively
- When sitting down to study, usually too tired or listless to study
- Leaving tasks unfinished; jumping from one task to another
- Studying on bed & falling asleep
- Daydreaming
- Can't resume studying after study breaks
- Spending too much time socializing, playing games or sports
- Unable to say "no" to invitations and requests <
- Making unrealistic time estimates <
- Attempting too much at once
- Getting behind in one course because of having to study for another
- Getting involved in unnecessary details
- Accomplishing very little in relation to the amount of time spent studying
- Distracted or frustrated by cluttered desk
- Not having or unable to locate needed materials
- Study area faces a window, door, TV, phone or other distractions
- Interruptions by outside interference (phone calls, visitors, noises)
- Frequently waiting until the last minute before starting to study or begin major project (i.e., Procrastination.)
- Feeling of intense panic while taking tests
Here are a number of suggestions that students have found helpful when preparing for exams:
When the Exam is Announced...Find out what the exam will or won't cover. It's no mystery; test questions come from assigned reading and lectures. The format of test questions can help you predict what the questions will be. Ask your instructor to describe the test format - how long it will be, and what kind of questions to expect (essay, multiple choice, problems). In lectures, you can watch for test questions by observing not only what the instructor says, but how she/he says it. Instructors give clues as to what might be on the exam. They might repeat a point several time, write it on the board, return to it in subsequent classes. Save all quizzes, papers, handouts, and graded material of any kind. Quiz questions have a way of appearing, in slightly altered form on final exams. Find out what kind of exam it will be - objective, short essay, long essay, or a combination. Many people have been experiencing intense feelings since the possibility of international conflict has been raised. You may be feeling...
...anxiety, fear, hope, shame, pride, anger, loss of control, outrage, disillusionment, grief, lack of safety, concern for others, and powerlessness.
Some of these emotions may be particularly strong because of feelings leftover from past experiences. For example, recent losses may sensitize you to the potential losses that will be incurred by the war. In addition, if you were currently coping with life stresses, the war may have added a stress beyond your coping capacity.
The current conflict may also pose troubling moral dilemmas. Many people feel responsible for the actions of our country while not having much power individually to impact national decisions.
It is normal to be experiencing a wide range of emotions at this stressful time. Be aware that such intense feelings will cause physical and mental strain.
You may feel generally fatigued and be having difficulty concentrating, sleeping, and eating normally. Many people may find themselves crying or getting angry more easily.
In fact, you may direct irritation or aggression at people or things that usually would not bother you. Stressful times require us to be easier on ourselves when we may behave differently than we prefer. In fact, it is important to be extra caring of ourselves at this time.
People have many ways of coping with stress, some of which are more effective than others.
Physical Coping Skills: Normalizing disrupted patterns Some effective ways of coping with war related emotions are to:
- Sleep regular hours; to facilitate sleeping: avoid caffeine after 3 PM and alcohol before bed
- Eat something light before bed
- Get up at a regular time no matter how well you have slept, however, if you need a nap, take one, but try to stay active during the day
- Read or listen to something relaxing before bed, (this means no strenuous exercise and no war news!)
- Eat a balanced diet at regular intervals - even if you are not hungry, eat a little at each mealtime
- Exercise moderately each day. A brisk walk will do. Stress prepares people physically to fight or flee. Regular exercise discharges this energy more productively when fighting or running will not solve the problem. Without such release, the energy may be turned inward creating fatigue or turned outward creating conflicts in your relationships.
Emotional/Spiritual Coping Skills: Managing our feelings and dilemmas Recognize what you can and cannot control. We may not have much control over the war activities, but we can control many things in our daily lives.
One way people try to gain a sense of control is by gathering information about the war. Unfortunately, sometimes having more information can increase stress. It is wise to monitor whether media exposure has a positive or negative impact on you and how much is right for you.
And for those of you who do not want to hear about the war, listening to the radio or watching T.V. may involuntarily expose you to frequent updates, therefore you may want to engage in other activities for entertainment
Other ways to gain control over your life are:
- create a schedule of study and recreation and stick to it
- talk about your feelings, but avoid talking solely with persons who are only negative and pessimistic
- express your opinions but avoid heated arguments
- recognize that thoughtful people of goodwill may come to very different conclusions from yours
- be mindful that international students are also under stress and hold a variety of political perspectives, some that may be similar to yours
- expect to be respected
- express yourself creatively (singing, dancing, cooking)
- do something fun; laughing at serious times is OK
- escape in healthy ways (video games, movies, hikes, NOT overeating or abusing drugs or alcohol)
- reach out to family and friends
- pray or meditate
- seek out religious or spiritual communities
- seek support groups or counselors if you continue to feel distressed
- use other stress management strategies available on many university websites, such as the Anxiety and Stress Management Training Sessions on the Self-help Resources page.
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